Families & Children.
we are here to help you navigate whatever challenges arise in these precious areas of life.
Families and children are so fundamental to us, and so precious to our experience of life. If you are experiencing distress, confusion, hopelessness in any aspect of your family, we are ready to help. People can often feel like a failure, or like they should be able to “just manage” this stuff. But we know deep down that life is complicated, and there aren’t always simple answers. We can help you find the solutions and build meaningful connections, and help children recover from a number of struggles.
Loving safe connections.
All children and families need loving, safe connections where people are valued, protected and heard. These dynamics underpin health and wellbeing for all, and we know how to help you foster this experience. Families who have this are resilient and feel the effects of a supportive environment.
The video below introduces you to attachment theory that underpins how families work:
Does my family need counseling?
Good question. Really, we could ask you if you long for more, or different experiences in your family? If so, you would likely benefit from counseling. It is helpful not to analyze or scrutinize our families and its “wrongness" or “messed-upness”, and just ask if we are feeling like something could change and be better. Each family has unique struggles and concerns, and families also get stuck in patterns or cycles. When you are in one, it is very hard to change without understanding what is happening, and often this requires outside support. Is your family experiencing any of following? If so, we would be happy to help.
Limited relational contact between members
Fear or frustration centered around a specific individual
A lack of intimacy or care for one another
A child who is “rebelling” or “acting defiantly” with regularity
Just seems to never be on the same page about anything
Has regular fights/conflict, or you could cut the tension with a knife
Transitions and/or difficulty adjusting
“No idea” or a sense of giving up, on how to support family members
Does my child need counseling?
When children are struggling they do all kinds of things. They may not seem distressed to anyone else, but a shift in their patterns, personality, play, appetite, etc., could mean that they are struggling. Parents often notice these things and have a “gut-sense” that something is going on. Try gently, non-defensively, and kindly bringing up concerns with children, and they might say more. Also, they may not, and you may have no idea why. In any of these instances, if you suspect your child is struggling, an outside, safe, trained counselor can help.
Have they changed in personality, appetite, sleep patterns
Have they developed “ticks” or “habits” or seemed to “get younger”
Have they become defiant or angry, and your not sure what is happening
Have they been through stressors or transitions (moving, parent divorce, lost a family member, etc.)
Have they been bullied
We could say many more. We encourage you to “trust your gut”. If you are concerned, let us support you.
What will this work look like?
Thats a great question! It will really depend on your needs, and the situation. One thing we guarantee is to keep you informed, and you will never be alone in the process. Family work can look like meeting together, or with separate individuals depending on what we need to work on. With children, we often meet with family members first, and depending on the age and needs of the child, we tailor our approach to best help them make the progress they need. Children will often do a combination of play, art and talk therapies.
We would love to meet your family, or your child
Contact us to set up an appointment with a counselor, or to discuss your families needs.